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Before we marry

The conversations most couples assume they have already had, and usually have not.

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Before we marry

Legado Relational Therapy · Annalis Garrido, LMFT

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Answer separately, then read each other’s answers out loud. Differences are not red flags. Unspoken differences are.

Money: what I grew up believing about it, and how I want us to handle it

Family: how close, how often, and what we do when they overstep

Children: whether, when, how many, and who adjusts their work

Faith and culture: what I want practiced in our home

Sex and affection: what I need, and what I am afraid to say about it

Work and ambition: whose career bends first, and when

Conflict: what I need when we fight, and what makes it worse

What would make me feel like we were drifting, and what I would want you to do about it