Writing is where the thinking slows down.
Prompts for couples and for the person inside the couple, worksheets you can print for the kitchen table, and a private journal that never leaves your device. All free, and open to anyone, whether or not you are a client.
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Connection
For weeks when you have been busy, polite, and slightly far away.
- What is something my partner did this week that I noticed and never mentioned?
- When did I last feel close to them? What was happening around us?
- What do I miss about how we were early on, and what do I not miss at all?
- What would I want them to know about my week that I have not said?
- Where in the day do we actually meet each other, and where do we only pass?
- What is one small thing that reliably makes me feel loved by them?
Conflict & repair
For after the argument, when things are quiet but not settled.
- What was I actually afraid of in that fight, underneath the anger?
- What did my partner most need me to hear, even if they said it badly?
- What is my move when I feel criticized: louder, colder, or gone?
- What would an apology from me sound like if it were not also a defense?
- What do we keep fighting about that is not really the thing we are fighting about?
- What helped us recover last time? Would it help now?
Appreciation
The habit most protective of long relationships, and the easiest to drop.
- Three things they did this week that made my life easier.
- Something they are carrying right now that I have not acknowledged.
- What do I admire about how they handle their family?
- When have I been proud of them recently, and did I say so?
- What would I say about them in a toast, honestly, tonight?
Individual reflection
Your own work, which is half of the relationship.
- What am I bringing into this relationship that started long before it?
- What do I do when I am overwhelmed, and what does it look like from the outside?
- Where am I saying yes and meaning no?
- What did conflict look like in the house I grew up in? What did I learn from it?
- What do I need this week that I have not asked anyone for?
- If nothing in the relationship changed, what would I still want to change in me?
Family & legacy
What you inherited, and what you are choosing to pass on.
- What did love look like in my family growing up? What was missing?
- Which of my parents do I sound like in an argument?
- What tradition do we want to keep, and which one ends with us?
- What do I want our children, or the people who come after us, to say about this house?
- What is the story my family tells about me, and is it still true?
En español
Porque algunos sentimientos solo existen en un idioma.
- ¿Qué le quiero decir a mi pareja que todavía no he dicho?
- ¿Cuándo fue la última vez que me sentí realmente acompañado o acompañada?
- ¿Qué aprendí del amor en la casa donde crecí?
- ¿Qué cargo yo de mi familia que no quiero pasarle a la mía?
- ¿Qué necesito esta semana y no he pedido?
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Worksheets for the kitchen table
Open one, print it or save it as a PDF, and do it together on paper. Paper slows people down, which is the point.
The weekly check-in
A structured twenty minutes, once a week, that prevents most of what couples end up in therapy for.
About 20 minutes →Mapping our cycle
Draw the loop the two of you get caught in, so you can see it instead of living inside it.
About 30 minutes →The repair conversation
A script for going back to a fight after things have cooled, without restarting it.
About 45 minutes →Before we marry
The conversations most couples assume they have already had, and usually have not.
About 60 minutes →One question a week, in your inbox.
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