Mapping our cycle

Draw the loop the two of you get caught in, so you can see it instead of living inside it.

Mapping our cycle

Legado Relational Therapy · Annalis Garrido, LMFT

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Fill this out separately, then compare. You are not looking for who started it. You are looking for the shape of the loop, which is usually the same one every time.

Mapping our cycle

Mapping our cycle

The moment it usually starts (the trigger)

What I do when it starts: my visible move

What I am feeling underneath that move

What I imagine my partner is thinking about me in that moment

What I actually need in that moment, in one sentence

What my partner does next, and how the loop closes

One place we could step out of it earlier